When Anger Shows Up in Parenting

Discover the tool that’s helped many parents turn frustration into connection.

MORE CONNECTION AND STEADINESS IN THE HARD MOMENTS OF PARENTING

Nervous system support that helps you respond with more choice — so parenting feels more aligned, less overwhelming, and grounded in real, embodied change.

Evidence-based. Parent-tried. Child-felt.

You Are Already The Parent Your Child Needs

Trust me on this for now. I promise you’ll believe it later.

And when your nervous system is overwhelmed, your reactions speak louder than your intentions. Of course! Support your nervous system so you can feel your goodness — and parent from that place with more choice. You don’t need more self-control — you need support that makes better responses more accessible. Because ease and connection aren't something you force — they're something your body allows.

You’ve read the books. You’ve tried the strategies. And in the heat of the moment, anger still takes the driver's seat. You see the look in your child’s eyes after you explode, and your heart sinks.

You promised yourself you’d be different, but stress takes over and the guilt is overwhelming

You’re afraid you’re damaging your child, but you don’t know how to stop. You wonder if real change is possible for you. You feel like you’re failing — even though you love your child deeply.

Now imagine something different:

You handle hard moments with connected confidence. Your child feels safe with you, even when they struggle. Repair becomes natural. And your child learns emotional resilience from your presence. And beneath that…you trust yourself. You feel grounded in your body and rooted in connection. You’ve broken the cycle. Your home becomes a place where emotions are understood, not feared. Your parenting aligns with your deepest values — love, connection, trust, respect, honesty, and resilience. And you finally parent with what you’ve always wanted to lead with: love, connection, and presence.

And when these practices come together, they create what I call

Embodied Peaceful Parenting

When your body feels safer and your awareness deepens, your values become easier to live. Your presence steadies. Your child feels your attunement. And this is where resilience grows … in you, in your child, and in the generations to come. Embodied Peaceful Parenting isn’t about perfection. It’s about supporting your nervous system so you can show up with connection, clarity, and warmth ... especially when things get hard.

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Hello My Friend

I'm Clara Roulev (She/Her)

I’m so glad you are here!

As a Certified Peaceful Parenting Coach, somatic guide, Playful Parenting Leader, and mom of three (one held in my heart), I’m here to walk alongside you as you learn to befriend the hard moments in parenting, not by avoiding or fixing them, but by meeting them with enough support, safety, and kindness to discover what they’re really asking of you.

I didn’t come to this work through perfection. I came to it through the moments I felt least proud of … the moments when my reactions startled me, when my body remembered what my mind tried to forget, when I realized that love alone wasn’t enough to keep me steady in high-intensity parenting moments.

Today, my work weaves somatic awareness and embodied practice with peaceful parenting, playful connection, nervous system science, interpersonal neurobiology, and trauma-informed support. I help parents cultivate the inner safety they need to show up with the warmth, steadiness, and attunement they always meant to offer.

If you’d like to hear more of my story, you can read the rest here.

Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, author of Playful Parenting

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"I highly recommend Clara Roulev as a parenting coach. I have known and admired Clara for several years now, first as a student in my Playful Parenting classes, then as an assistant teacher, and then as part of the first cohort of Certified Playful Parenting Leaders. Clara embodies the three essential components for effective parent coaching: a compassionate heart, a deep understanding of the nervous systems of parents and children, and a playful spirit."

Here are the ways we can walk this journey together

One Connected Step At A Time

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My latest reflection on the inner work of parenting.

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Coaching, circles, and classes to help you parent from connection.

And the reason this approach works is simple

Our Brains Grow In Relationship

Where the science meets the heart of my work

"Those who are nurtured best, survive best."— Louis Cozolino, The Neuroscience of Human Relationships

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So what does this mean for your child?

A Healthy Brain Grows In Connection

From an interpersonal neurobiology perspective, the brain develops through experiences of safe connection. Every warm look, every moment of shared attention, and every repair after rupture literally shapes neural pathways. Children don’t grow resilient by becoming tougher or more compliant — they grow resilient because they feel safe, seen, soothed, and supported, especially when things are hard. Relationship is what organizes the brain. Safety is what allows it to thrive.

And what does this mean for you?

If Relationship Is What Shapes The Brain...

Then Presence Is The Pathway

We often talk about how much our children need connection — and they do. Warmth. Presence. Someone who can stay close when things are hard. And parents I work with want to offer exactly that. But when your own nervous system is overwhelmed, it becomes harder to stay present — even with the best intentions. Not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because your body is asking for support too.

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And the truth is…we Cannot Offer That Kind Of Presence

When We Are Disconnected From Ourselves

Before we can guide our child through a storm, it helps to feel our own feet on the ground. Before we can connect, we have to recognize what is happening in our own body — the tightening, the heat, the old memories rising beneath the surface. Before we can coach our child, we must learn to stay present with ourselves. Because safety isn’t the absence of conflict. Safety is the capacity to stay connected through it. This is the foundation of embodied peaceful parenting. This is the heartbeat of my work.

If These Words Resonate…

I’d love to keep walking beside you.

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Words from parents who’ve been on this journey

"I feel incredibly fortunate to have met Clara through the parenting course. She has been a tremendous support during some challenging times as a mom. Whether by listening without judgment or providing thoughtful advice, Clara has always helped me understand what was happening in my child's mind. Her compassionate and positive attitude inspired me after each session, and I will treasure these moments forever.."

Sara, Mother of 2

" I want to express my deep gratitude for all that you do! Thank you for being the support I needed to turn things around, and for all that we will accomplish in the future. You help me see things that are otherwise easy to miss. I am thankful for your insights."

D, Mother of 2

"Clara has a natural ability to listen with loving compassion and mindful presence that makes you feel deeply cared about. Her tone and words transmit that you are unconditionally loved, accepted and a good natured being at core. Clara helps you see that your unskillful responses were a protective pattern at some point in your life, and only through radical acceptance and gratitude for these, can you begin to change them and build new patterns of responses."

Dajana, Mother of 3

From My Journal To Your Home

A space for stories, insights, and somatic reflections, where I share my struggles, joys, and the aha moments that shape my parenting—so you don’t feel alone, and remember that we’re all a work in progress.

No fixing. Just shared humanity.